Love creates so many questions when it arrives into our lives and its those very questions I asked my friends to ask me…here are my answers.
Define love in 5 words
Complicated. Exhilarating. Intoxicating. Painful. Blindness.
Do you believe in love at first sight?
I used to a long time ago, now I believe in good chemistry and potential. Love is the good the bad and the ugly, it’s those little things that you hate to love about a person that can only come with time. I believe in that first burst of electricity that explodes down your spine when they touch your hand for the first time…but love at first sight? not so much.
Have you ever changed yourself to make someone love you?
Yes! Haven’t we all at some point over the years? From the words we carefully choose and the outfits we painstakingly put together, parts of our lives hidden for as long as we possibly can just in case it scares them away? Yeah I’ve changed for men, terrified in a fit of insecurity that the real me would just never be enough or too much or worse, hated! too messy, too needy, too distant, too complicated but In the end, the best relationships were all created from transparency, crystal clear visibility into who I truly am. Dont lose yourself for the love of another.
Love is like a box of chocolates. Discuss.
A take on the quote..
“life is like a box of chocolates, you never know what you’re gonna get” – Forrest Gump
and I agree, just like life, love is very much like a box of chocolates! Think about it, love comes in so many forms, 8 in total if you believe the Ancient Greeks. They believed the types of love were Agape (unconditional love) Eros (romantic love) Philia (affectionate love) Philautia (self love) Storge (familiar love) Pragma (enduring love) Ludus (playful love) and finally, Mania (obsessive love) and I’m pretty sure I’ve encountered and become all 8 over the years. We all bring something new to the tables we choose to sit at, we feast on what we discover and relish in tastes we have never experienced before. Lets face it, do we ever really know what we’re going to get from love?
What’s the one thing about love that scares you?
hmm.. a lot of things scare me about love, love is fucking terrifying! It has the power to turn us into crazy beasts, do things we never knew we could and sometimes turn us into people we never thought we could be, though the thing that scares me the most about love is the thought that one day I may have to learn to live without it.
Do you think you can be in love with two people?
I feel like love and lust are two very different things and the two often get mixed up, It’s happened to me before. Being so deeply in love with someone yet desperately yearning for another, some kind of animal like instinct, a chemical attraction that just wont go away until the itch is scratched so to speak. There is also a big difference between loving someone and being in love with someone and again this can definitely create some pretty sticky situations. This is one question that really has me beat!
How do you know when you love someone?
I believe the moment is different with everyone. Sometimes you just wake up and its like seeing clearly for the first time, other times I’ve known from a single look, the first time having sex, even from the first sarcastic insult (yeah strange I know) but however strange the sign, it is true that when you know, you just know.
Do you believe love conquers all?
No I dont and I know how cynical that sounds but I still have my demons, we all do and unfortunately love can only do so much. We have to look inside ourselves and figure shit out sometimes and no matter how deep in love we are, some things love just would never understand.
What do you hope to gain from love in the future?
Haha! Love that lasts would be amazing! I don’t know, I guess I’m just hopeful for something real you know? A love that is deep enough to anchor down. A love fertile enough to grow. A love that can handle all my shit and break down my walls a little. I ‘ve experienced love so many times by now, held my hand out but could not reach and held on just a little too tightly. I guess I’m hopeful that one day, someone will show up and show me how to get it right, one last time.